Comments on: Love Hurts

By: Beth Gabel

Beth Gabel — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:05:57 +0000

I also agree. My cl husband and i had a fight and some words were said. I hit him but i am a small women..i am guilty but nothing like this has ever happened before. We are both in our 50's. Its been 2 months now and the courts are slow.. I miss my daughter and him and our home..I am so stressed out that i don't think our realationship can hold on much longer. I do work full time but paying my lawyer has drained my bank account, plus i am renting a 1 bedromm apt. The law needs to be changed in this area for poeple like me..When he phoned the police he just wanted to report it, he had no idea that they would charged me and he had no say. I just want this done and over with as I have never been in trouble with the law before. Some action needs to be taken..Thanks

By: Jane McDonell

Jane McDonell — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 16:01:04 +0000

Oh I could not agree with you more! Two weeks ago my common-law spouse and I had an argument that resulted in him being charged. The police asked me what happened, not being aware of the repercussions I told them because I thought you were supposed to trust the police. The things I said are now referred to as a "statement" and I have been labeled a victim. This was an isolated incident. I am not a vulnerable spouse living in a violent relationship.

There is an overwhelming abundance of help being offered to me as "the victim" but as soon as I mention reuniting with my spouse and working on what cause the tension to build in the first place I hit roadblocks at every turn.

We are having our first child in 12 weeks. The stress and anxiety I face everyday of not having my partner with me is almost unbearable. Our savings are being used on a lawyer for his defence. I am at home, isolated and alone carrying the burden of maintaining our household on my own.

No one will listen to me; I am a woman without a voice. A victim of the very Justice system that is meant to protect me.

By: David Cheifetz

David Cheifetz — Thu, 20 May 2010 05:23:03 +0000

What? You want to change a system that assumes that it is better that scores of innocent people be victimized rather than chancing that one guilty person go free and do something worse? And concurrently provides sinecure employment for scores of people?

How un-Canadian and "un-pc" of you.